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BANG! A thunderous scale rushed up the piano keyboard and back down again. It was the usual early morning wake-up call. For the next two hours, the family would be subjected to the tempestuous sounds of an advanced piano student preparing for an exam. After breakfast, a second advanced student would practice for another hour or so. And that was only the morning. The afternoon would bring another hour of crashing scales followed by a second hour of intensive practice on some fiendishly difficult piece of classical music. That was one day down – only five more to go in the week! Surely having an athlete training for the Olympics would be easier than that.
Enduring music practice is not for the faint-hearted, especially when there is an advanced student in the family or the family home is too small to accommodate the needs of everyone. Try the following tips to help you stay sane!
In recent years the ageing population has increased. The large post-war Baby Boomer group has reached retirement age, medical advances mean people are living longer, and younger people are having fewer children and waiting till they are older to have them. All of these factors mean that seniors now form a significant part of the population. And along with an ageing population comes an increase in cognitive illnesses such as Alzheimer’s and dementia.
In response, researchers have been studying ways to prevent or reverse age-related cognitive decline. Several studies looked at the benefits experienced by seniors who play or are learning to play a musical instrument.
Researchers found that people who learn to play an instrument when they are young can expect a lifetime of benefits. These include improved concentration and motor skills, and improved memory and comprehension. Playing a musical instrument creates new pathways in the brain that remain active in other areas of life.
Researchers also found that both children and seniors who play a musical instrument have less depression and better overall psychological and physical health. They enjoy greater social opportunities and are more likely to be confident.
So on the days when you wonder if it’s all worth it, remind yourself that you are investing in your child’s future and that the benefits will last a lifetime. It will be worth it!
References:
Click to access neu-25-3-378.pdf
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3814522/
http://time.com/3634995/study-kids-engaged-music-class-for-benefits-northwestern/
http://ed.ted.com/lessons/how-playing-an-instrument-benefits-your-brain-anita-collins
She tottered toward me on unsteady legs, with walking being a very new skill. Her left hand clutched my fork, which she had just pilfered from the dinner table. She handed it to me with a big grin, her pleasure evident. She had just done something helpful for Mummy, and right now, she was feeling the pleasure that comes from good deeds – before she was old enough to know what helping others even means. I thanked her for being helpful, and she toddled off, well pleased with herself. Her desire to help others had been rewarded, and now she felt good.
Compassion is often confused with empathy, but they are distinctly different. Empathy is the ability to feel the feelings of another person – for example when your best friend has just lost a loved one, and you cry from the feelings of pain and loss that they are enduring. Likewise, altruism can be confused with compassion, but it too is different: it is doing something good for others, but not necessarily out of compassion – when we donate to a charity, but receive a tax break in return, for example.
Compassion is thinking of others and acting in a way that benefits them without any thought of gain or reward for ourselves. Indeed, the acts of compassion we perform are a reward in themselves: we get that warm feeling that accompanies doing something good, performing a noble act, or putting the happiness and well-being of others ahead of our own.
Scientists have long been fascinated with the qualities of compassion and generosity, and much has been made of whether these are learned or inherent behaviours. Studies have shown that babies who are too young to understand rewards for good deeds are capable of compassion. One personal example was my daughter Rosie. She was still crawling, unable to walk yet, and we were in the park. My friend, who had a couple of babies of her own, was feeling pretty sad: her beloved grandfather was in the hospital just down the road, dying. Rosie crawled across the picnic rug we were sitting on, snuggled up against my friend, and held her. Somehow, she just knew that this person was in need of comfort. No one said anything in particular or tried to explain it, and never mind that my friend had babies of her own to cuddle. She has never spontaneously cuddled someone since, but we have never had a grieving friend in that situation, either. She was born with the ability to be compassionate even before she could walk or talk.
Scientists have discovered many physical, mental and social benefits to ourselves when we help others. These include:
I was outside early one morning, talking on the phone to a friend. Out of the corner of my eye, I saw something move. I looked closer, and I saw what appeared to be a cat under the house. I mentioned to my friend that someone’s cat just went under the house, and thought no more of it.
About ten minutes later, still talking, I felt something brush my legs. I looked down, and there was this pathetic little cat. Pretty, yes, with white, orange and black patches, but scrawny. Her ribs were sticking out. She was small, too – probably not fully grown. And she was very obviously hungry.
I said goodbye to my friend, and the cat ran back under the house. There was no dilemma here: I instantly felt sorry for the poor thing. What kind of a person would I be to refuse to feed a starving creature like this one obviously was? So I went and got some dog food, and put it under the house. The cat lost all fear at the sight of food and began to eat ravenously. She ate her fill, then retreated under the house again. A little later I returned, and all the food was gone.
We had no plans to have a cat. But now that I’d fed her, this one wasn’t going away. After hissing a few times at our old dog, she decided that if she was going to live here, she’d better get along with him. And she was a great blessing to him in the final days of his life, snuggling up with him at night in his bed and keeping him warm.
And to this day, she remains my cat. She has never forgotten compassion when she was hungry and homeless, and loyalty to me is first and foremost. When we return home after being away, I’m the one she wants to be with, and she’s not satisfied till she has spent some time with me. I’m the one who receives the “gifts” she brings – a mouse carefully placed in my shoe or some other place where only I will find it. Her love is mine first because I showed her compassion in her time of need.
How do you do compassion? What does it look like for you? What makes you feel good? How do you help others?
If you think your life could use some compassion, let me encourage you first to give. Giving is its own reward: you feel good because you did something for someone else. Sooner or later, it will come full circle, and someone else will give to you. Enrich your life. Help others, and experience the joy that comes with it. Enjoy better health, better emotions, and better social connections. What do you have to lose?!
References:
http://roadmumma.com/go-ahead-make-my-day/
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